About

Relationship is the dance of connection & independence ….and the alchemy of finding the balance between the 2 is differentiation

Meet Jill

Hi, I’m Jill!

Thank you to the many couples that have allowed me to witness their efforts to heal themselves and their relationships. Supporting complex couples- no matter whether those complexities were from neurodiversity, trauma, or the impact of life experiences has been such an honor!

After many years, I am now semi-retiring and will be seeing only a very small number of clients. Do feel free to get in touch and explore if a slot is opening soon. Additionally, please enjoy the resources on the site and the list of counselors that are practiced in ND Compass methodology in the curated resources.

Smiles,

Jill 

Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing & right-doing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass, the world is too full to talk about

-Rumi

The ND Compass 4 Core Directions

  1. EDUCATION develop a common language & expand perspective around the other’s experience

  2. NICHE CONSTRUCTION just like beavers build dams- set your relationship-environment up for success and mutuality

  3. DIFFERENTIATION build the capacity to tolerate differences, resist urges to power over/under & remain regulated enough to skillfully negotiate. Hear and  communicate needs

  4. AUTONOMIC RESET recover the nervous system so you are not “white knuckling” the tolerance described above, but rather truly experiencing a wider window. Reset the memory consolidation from past experience so it is not continually hijacking you in the present moment

“We tried so many counselors over the years and were feeling stuck and hopeless… Jill’s approach made sense to us and led us to the positive feelings we have for each other that was buried under years of defensiveness. We have been working the Compass for 3 years now and have proven to ourself we can get unstuck and reconnect when we lose our way. We know what we need to do to find each other in the “airspace”, stay connected, and “keep it clean.”

- Complex couple